Permission

 

I’m having a day. A day where I experience a lot of pain. My fiancé always pokes fun at me because I don’t do well with idle time. Sure, I love, love, love relaxing whether that means meditating, taking a walk in nature, reading, or even cozying up with my cat and a show on Netflix. But when I’m not in the mood for idle time, and it’s forced upon me, UGH. NO. THANK. YOU.

So, today is one of those days. It hurts to breathe. It aches to move.

I woke up this morning with a running list in my head of all of the things that I want to get done today. But that was my mental agenda. My body had an entirely different agenda for the day. My physical agenda is not jiving with my mental agenda.

It’s taken me a long while to realize this: My mind and body often have very, very different agendas. Throw your heart in there and you’ve got a mental, physical, and emotional agenda! These three agendas are often in competition for attention.

Isn’t it great when they all align? What does that feel like for you? For me, it’s when I am walking in the evening (physical), hearing the birds in the trees above and feeling grateful (emotional), and trying to identify the trees, wildflowers, or wildlife that I see (mental).

But when I can’t make my physical agenda meet up with my mental or emotional? That’s tough. It is often maddening.

What to do?

I’m a work in progress. We all are.

There are moments when I’m plugging along and all my agendas align, and there are moments where they just don’t. But, that’s OKAY. I’ll say it again, for myself and for you: IT IS OKAY.

I’m an event planner by trade. This means I am a planner by nature. I love plans. I love lists. I love making a plan for my future planning. But, plans change. And they change frequently and quickly. This means, that we need to be ready to change our plans to accommodate our physical agenda.

What does this look like?

First, go somewhere that you can be alone. Even if it’s a park bench down the street, or the bathroom stall in your office, or the pantry in your kitchen. Close your eyes and place the palms of your hands on your eyelids. Take five of the deepest, most filling breaths you can. Inhale from your nose and exhale from your mouth. Do you have more to shake off and get out? Grab a pillow or go sit in your car and just yell or moan or chant mantras. Do something that is a release. Then, give yourself permission to change your plans.

Instead of trying to accomplish all ten things on your to do list, give yourself permission to tackle the three things that are possible for today. Maybe you just can’t get to the most important thing today, but hey, you will live. And guess what? By taking care of yourself today you will have more energy to tackle another three things on that list tomorrow.

Is there something that just really, really needs to get done and you just can’t physically do it today? Ask someone you trust for some help. They know that when you can you will help them, too. We’ll be discussing how to ask for help in another blog post. This is also related to giving yourself permission to just sit with it.

Are you a mom? Maybe you don’t run yourself ragged today to make it the “best day ever”? Maybe, you grab the kids or ask someone you trust to pick them up, and you order take out and cozy up to a movie as a family. Make a small change in your plans to go a little easier on your body.

You control your to do list. Adjust it to fit your agendas.

I’m going to go take a few deep breaths, put some heat on my back and close my eyes for fifteen minutes. This is me, changing my agenda to take care.

What does this mean for you? I love to hear from you and so do my other readers! Share with us in the comment section below, what you do to take care. How do you give yourself permission to just sit with it? 

Peace, 

Shelly